You may have noticed that there's a lot of talk about cooperation and negotiation when you are going through a divorce. You hear it from lawyers, mediators, judges, teachers, family members, and well-meaning friends who have been there. It probably feels pretty contradictory right now, doesn't it? You may be thinking "If we were able to cooperate, we wouldn't be getting a divorce." Your frustration is understandable. Unfortunately, it doesn't change the fact that negotiating and cooperating with one another is the most effective way to get through your divorce. This is especially true when there are children involved.