For some, the realization that their marriage is over comes easily. Perhaps they have a deal-breaker mentality that makes it easy to know when a spouse has crossed the line. You may be like others, however, for whom walking away from a commitment like marriage is a painful, difficult decision. Even when outsiders can see the unhappiness in your marriage, you may want to hold on a little longer.
Depending on your experience, you may have already overcome some fairly stressful challenges in life. Some types of situations seem to be stressful by nature, such as divorce. There aren't many people in California or anywhere who make it all the way through the divorce process with zero obstacles arising. In fact, if you do, you should probably write a book on the topic because others will want to know your secret.
As you ease into a new lifestyle with your children after divorce, you will likely face a few challenges. Each of your children might react differently to the situation, one becoming more reclusive, and perhaps, another a bit more rebellious. There's no one way to deal with the emotional roller coaster that often accompanies the divorce process. Any major change in life can be difficult. Your children's lives will never be the same, and they may struggle to come to terms with it all.
If the past holiday season left you feeling confused because of recent changes in your family, you are not alone. Like many in California and across the country, you may be a stepparent in a family with numerous stepparents, stepchildren and half-siblings. Across the country, in about one third of all families with parents under the age of 55, at least one parent is a step.
When you filed the papers to end your marriage in a California court, you knew your decision was affecting children's lives as well as your own. Hopefully, through thoughtful discussions and by keeping lines of communication open, you'll be able to help them over any bumps that arise on their pathways toward a new family lifestyle. There are certain issues that seem to be most prevalent among children of divorced parents. Knowing what these are ahead of time may help you to better help them.
When you first started thinking about getting divorced, you may have immediately begun to worry about the potential costs of such endeavors. While you realized that there are other issues as or more important than money, you have also always been a practical thinker; thus, it seemed only logical to think and plan ahead. Perhaps a few of your friends suggested that you try a do-it-yourself style divorce. You took to the idea right away because it sounded like a big money-saver.
In many ways life after a divorce is a chance to set the reset button on your life, but if you have kids in tow things can get a bit complicated. Many divorce agreements set geographical parameters on where a custodial parent can live. The idea is that it is most beneficial for kids to have regular input from both of their parents. While this is often true, each individual parent also needs to be able to move their own lives forward, and often opportunities present themselves outside the original parameters set by the court.