When you first started thinking about getting divorced, you may have immediately begun to worry about the potential costs of such endeavors. While you realized that there are other issues as or more important than money, you have also always been a practical thinker; thus, it seemed only logical to think and plan ahead. Perhaps a few of your friends suggested that you try a do-it-yourself style divorce. You took to the idea right away because it sounded like a big money-saver.
As is often the case in life, things aren’t always what they seem. Therefore, if you really hope to obtain the best possible outcome, you may want to thoroughly research the pros and cons of acting without legal representation in divorce.
What can go wrong?
The answer to that question is plenty. In fact, there are several common myths associated with the idea of self-procured divorce that you may want to beware of if you’re considering similar solutions to your current marital problems. The following list includes facts to dispel the myths:
- Someone might tell you that if you are on friendly terms with your soon-to-be former spouse, and you both agree as to your proposed future parenting arrangement, there’s no need to waste time or money executing official documents. Not getting a parenting plan in writing is typically a very bad idea. Just because the two of you are on good terms now doesn’t mean it will always be that way. Besides that, a written plan provides easy reference if confusion or dispute ever arises regarding a particular issue, such as where your kids will spend the holidays or which parent will attend special school events.
- As you surf the internet, you may come across do-it-yourself divorce papers that you can complete online and print. The trouble with these documents is many divorce laws vary by state. Also, such processes can be quite complex and challenging even for those who are well-versed in California law.
- Although some people believe that by staying out of court you remove the potential for emotional outbursts during divorce proceedings, the fact is that divorce is seldom easy and most people experience a wide range of emotions whether they secure do-it-yourself divorces or seek experienced legal guidance.
You are free to decide what works best for your family, but it may help you make an informed decision if you discuss all available options with others who have already navigated the process.
Most California residents choose to seek support from experienced family law attorneys who can help protect their rights and make sure proceedings remain centrally focused on their children’s best interests.
